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Author: Wim Dupont <wim@wimdupont.com>
Date: Sat, 4 Dec 2021 05:11:57 -0500
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+"Stop caring/stressing/worrying about things you can't control" is a sentence
+you have probably read or heard before. This rather interesting idea is similar
+to eastern religion quotes such as Dalai Lama XIV's: “If it can be solved,
+there's no need to worry, and if it can’t be solved, worry is of no use."
+
+Worry in itself might be a helpful tool, but excessive worrying can become
+harmful rather quickly. To stop worrying entirely is quite impossible and not
+really what is meant by these quotes. However, having the mindset and awareness
+to think about your worries in this way is beneficial to minimize its damaging
+effects.
+
+With this in mind, it is important to remain fair in what is, and what isn't in
+your control. Deceiving yourself into thinking that something is beyond your
+control to avoid responsibility and thus avoid worrying is not the path we are
+trying to take here. So, be honest in what you can and can't do, even if you're
+only able to take one small step. But, after having done the things within your
+power, try to let go of the worry.
+
+*Make choices based on values and independence.*
+
+Even with the right mindset, it is not easy to just let go of things beyond your
+control. Therefore, continuously and consistently trying to reduce these
+uncontrolled things beforehand can be helpful.
+
+By making choices based on your current values, you are doing the things that
+you feel are most important to you and are worth spending time on. You are also
+less likely to regret these choices in the future. In addition to this, you
+should favor the choices that result in less dependence on things you have no
+control over. This dependence could be to either companies, people, technology,
+locations, etc. This will increase your control, freedom, and, thus, your
+ability to do something about your worries and the ability to make changes to
+your life more easily.
+
+In my opinion, this goes somewhat hand-in-hand to the quantity of items you
+possess. Having fewer items increases peace of mind by removing the worry of
+maintenance, storage, potential loss,... That said, this "minimalist"
+lifestyle, which also translates extremely well in technology and software, is a
+topic for another day.
+
+In this day and age, most of us are already very dependent on certain luxuries
+and systems. I too prefer comfortably living through winter times in a heated
+house with running water and electricity. And, I too am currently dependent on
+technologies such as computers and the internet to share this information around
+the globe. Obviously, you should not stretch this too far and abstain from all
+of this, but try and be aware of your dependency to certain entities when making
+decisions.
+
+Let's end this with a quote that can have many implications, but which remains
+rather beautiful when left to its simplistic nature:
+
+*"Don't worry, be happy" ~ _Meher Baba_*
